Yesterday someone questioned me whether I was straight, gay, bi? and I said straight because I'm out with this girl who I truly loved. So he made me check-out few pictures of naked girls and guys. I liked guys more. But this morning I realized I liked the girls even more & I think the guys are sick. I always thought I was pretty much straight & I hoped that was true. So can someone tell me what the hell is going on?
Well I was obviously confused. I don't think that human sexuality can easily be categorized into neat labels. Basically ‘you like what you like’.Just because you've been aroused by naked men doesn't mean that you're gay or bicurious. I suspect that this is fairly common among heterosexual males. Another thing is that you're young and probably beginning to become more aware of your sexuality. Try not to worry about labeling yourself with anything with regards to your sexual preference, likes or dislikes. You're unique just like anyone else.
“Gay,bi,ugly,fine,rich,poor,skinny,fat,tall,short,orange,black,white,purple - a friend is a friend - if you don't judge.”
That's his opinion but just be straight & you won't get made fun of. Why does it only have to be straight/gay/bi? If you haven't had sex yet, you're a virgin. What's wrong with that option? Nothing. Heck it's the perfect answer for any age. Is it possible that you just admired those naked men? There's nothing wrong with that. Your eyes are blessed with sight and there's nothing wrong with noticing beauty. It could have been just the nakedness that aroused you & got you all excited, irrespective of the sexual identity. There's nothing wrong with a naked body. What's wrong are the impure thoughts people judge you by.
The person who asked you to look at porn was probably confused himself or was just trying to excite & lure you or judge you & there was a possibility that he himself was looking at you as a piece of flesh with intentions of having sex. Run sweetheart - That's not a friend, its a hormonal quencher in disguise, trying to hunt its prey.
If you want, you could easily hunt down porn & witness how many of lives it was ruining. No matter whatever your age is - I say don't worry about your sexuality. Every other person might just be going through the same process, just don't let it get to you. Nobody is going to care if you are gay or straight & if at all at a point some people might do, those either would be concerned for your welfare or a bunch of idiots who needed to get a grip on there own life. The only thing you should be worrying about is your life. You have a girlfriend, & you truly love her. I had a girlfriend once & I loved her too. When it comes down to it, you’ll probably know. Your true friends and family won't care what was your orientation. You have years before you even have to worry about having a sexual relationship & its true; if you don't know, we don't either. You are probably just curious, so don't worry. Your body is going through some heavy changes - puberty & everything else. It is releasing all sorts of hormones & things. You are free to chose having a girlfriend or a boyfriend.
We all do it, I did it, my friends did it, it is very normal. You will find girls & boys attractive & its normal exploring out with them. We all experiment. We all do it, We seldom look at the guys in the locker room or online to see what the other guy has, it's curiosity. Some guys even get into sex with each other, it's experimenting. Sometimes called a circle jerk, guys will sit around and whip it out to see who was bigger who came first and how much. Even girls do it. Just relax and enjoy life - don't sweat it. maybe you will experiment? maybe not, but at the end you’ll know what you like & what you want. Most of the times as we grow older our hormones steady themselves & realize that we want women, sometimes we will decide we want to be with guys. And sometimes we just wont make up our mind and sleep with either sex.
Being bi-curious could have it's benefits. It increases your chance of a date on Saturday night. You are young, please don't be bothered about how you felt, it's normal. It's OK you are growing up and discovering your sexuality. You are normal, you maybe confused but I can guarantee 99% of people your age are feeling the same.
People get aroused in many different ways and to be honest I get turned on by girl on girl & I have tried it and liked it & I know that I would only date a bloke ever. maybe the blokes turned you on for the fact that it was all to do with sex. At some point, a lot get turned on by anything so do not worry. Look around you - the boys that you would like to take on a date and when you answer that - you might have already answered your question. good luck.
I have a lot of gay friends. They say they always knew they were straight. If you are worrying about what you are, odds are you are straight. You don't have to be anything to appreciate a man's or a woman's body. You're full of hormones. Either way, you will be fine.
Don't make others define you. Life is a journey and you're in stages of discovering. So don't freak out, just because you are sexually attracted to a guy doesn't mean that it has to do with your orientation, it just means that something in your brain is triggered that makes you sexually excited.
Screw what people say or think, just do what makes you happy. Don't worry being anything that you might be - a label isn't needed to fit into society. You'll find out as time goes by. - Anonymous
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